“Alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much” – Helen Keller
There is great power in community; my own life experience bears witness to this truth. In fact, to thrive as humans we need to be part of a community, or better yet, part of many circles of connection. We can definitely do more together than we can alone, everything from sharing collective wisdom to sharing resources (such as tools and equipment), to gathering for meals, to supporting others in time of trial and pain, and celebrating with folks when good things happen. We are not built to function in isolation, even the most painfully introverted among us need connection to thrive.
Yesterday, I received a HUGE surprise in the mail from some friends I made about a dozen years ago when I signed up for a Yahoo! Group called The Compact (more about the surprise in a minute). You can read about The Compact here and here, but in a nutshell it is a diverse group of folks who covenant together to avoid excess consumption and make do with used, bartered, shared, and thrifted purchases, or do without. There are exceptions in the group’s guidelines for what may/should be purchased new: supporting local craftspeople and artists is good stewardship while used undies are not so much of a thing. Sharing and redistributing goods is encouraged (think freecycle.org, trashnothing.com, and various freebie groups on Facebook, for example), as is shopping at thrift stores, resale stores, etc.
I joined The Compact while serving my first parish in North Dakota. A funny thing happened while I was learning some amazing frugal tips and meeting folks who live all over the United States; I started forming relationships. Some I’ve lost touch with (still wonder what happened to L in Alabama), one died (rest easy, G), while others I still communicate with via Facebook. I get to see wonderful photos of E’s beloved pups, hear about K’s amazing grassroots hunger non-profit, see photos of J’s new victorian house and hear about her writing, appreciate P’s activism and advocacy, marvel at another K’s fabulous thrifting scores, and admire beautiful needlework projects by L and L and S. Through it all, I’ve been able to “virtually” celebrate graduations, anniversaries, weddings, military enlistments, new homes, sobriety anniversaries, jobs, grandchildren, and beloved pets, as well as grieve painful losses, pray for healing, and laugh at memes and jokes.
Yes, there are compelling arguments that social media relationships aren’t “real” relationships for a whole host of reasons, but when it comes to my Compact connections, I would argue otherwise. Some of us have never met in person (others have been luckier due to geographic proximity), but we share a common interest and nurture friendship from that foundation. Now, back to that surprise…
Several of my Compact friends have been following my cancer journey with encouragement, prayers, good intentions, and comments. It means so much and gives me a boost of strength and hope that feels equally as strong as the Abraxane chemotherapy I receive. Yesterday in the mail, I received two packages with this lovely note: “Sharron, your Compact Family is thinking of you and we love you. From K.E.” In those packages were an Amazon gift card and two of the coolest ice tea/smoothie spoons I have ever seen. One has engraved in its bowl “A spoonful of strength” and the other one says “Get well spoon.” Plus, two spoons make a Compact-worthy musical instrument! I sat on the sofa and cried happy tears at this tangible witness to caring friendship and support.
Yes, one of the most important lessons I’ve learned from The Compact and my circle of friends from that group is that although I need so very little, I am so grateful for these relationships that enrich life and illustrate so perfectly the power of community and circles of connection. Thank you, friends, for thinking of me. Whether you call it synchronicity, karma, or divine intervention, your kind and beautiful gift arrived on a difficult day and made it oh so much better. I am grateful. Three cheers for community–in all its forms!